Comments on: Honey, I Think You Should Know, I’ve Been Seeing Joanna Angel

By: Bad

Bad — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 21:01:45 +0000

Note that the FoxNews sexpert doesn’t take a stand on whether it’s equivalent. She says that many women feel it’s equivalent. That’s a very very different question, and it’s a little harder to argue that someone shouldn’t FEEL it’s as bad, even if we all agree that objective, it’s not as bad. They can feel however they want. And considering their feelings is relevant.

By: Tony

Tony — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 17:25:45 +0000

If viewing porn is the equivalent of having an affair, then masturbating while thinking of anyone other than your partner must also be the equivalent of having an affair. To me it seems unrealistic, unnatural, and downright unAmerican to expect someone to police their private fantasies when they are alone in privacy.

By: Barnabe Googe

Barnabe Googe — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 15:31:26 +0000

And, btw, whether porn is equivalent to having an affair or not is kind of a straw man. Porn is a relationship killer. just read the divorce dockets.

By: Barnabe Googe

Barnabe Googe — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 15:30:34 +0000

No offense to the women in this thread, but they really have no idea about the pathological relationship between men and internet porn.

By: Bad

Bad — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 19:31:41 +0000

Lots of sane people think porn is cheating. If you don't believe me, ask Dan Savage. Porn as cheating is really all about implicit emotional and physical boundaries that couples have. Oh, and Julian, your little comment has inspired quite a lot of discussion.

By: The Bad Idea Blog

The Bad Idea Blog — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 19:20:55 +0000

In Defense of Pornography, In Revulsion of Jesus’ Redefinition of Adultery, In Minor Defense of Douthat…

Here’s how it starts:
A Fox News sexpert declares that many spouses view “using porn, at least beyond a magazine like Playboy, [as] the equivalent of having an actual affair.”
Reason journalist Julian Sanchez can’t quite wrap …

By: Charles

Charles — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 07:07:17 +0000

Evangelical Christians believe that lust = adultery since Jesus said some nonsense equating the two. (Matt 5:28) Who knows how many of them really believe this, but still.

By: Hannah

Hannah — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 04:12:06 +0000

The people in the media nowadays spouting this insanity make me so angry. They actually make me more angry than the people who say that masturbating will make you go to hell.

An affair is justification for a divorce or breakup. It’s not something to joke about. It’s serious. It’s not just emotionally damaging. It also spreads disease.

Porn on the other hand is awesome. It’s something to be enjoyed either by yourself or with your partner. Like a good book, movie, meal, drink, game, walk on the beach, or picnic in the park.

And I’m pretty sure a lot of people agree with me, women included.

And to think my husband calls me crazy (albeit for different reasons).

By: Fin Fang Foom

Fin Fang Foom — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 02:01:36 +0000

I wonder why Playboy is not considered “cheating.” I wouldn’t think its overall mildness would make much of a difference to the “sexpert” [ugh]. It makes even less sense if she means “using” as something different from “reading.”

By: Franklin Harris

Franklin Harris — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 01:36:07 +0000

Well, I believe this view was endorsed by President Carter, who admitted having “lusted in his heart.”

Oh, wait. Sane people. Never mind.